March 9th, 2005
Me and Dad or Dad and me? / wonk / spanking new
by Barbara Wallraff
Conni Johnson, of Farmington Hills, Mich., writes: “Please settle a dispute between my 11-year-old son and me. He always says ‘me and Dad.’ I was taught it is proper to put the other person’s name first, as in ‘Dad and me.’ He is convinced his way is right, but I believe it sounds rude. Please advise.”
Dear Conni: I’m with you. Nonetheless, it’s not a grammatical mistake to refer to yourself first. Every now and then it’s even a good idea to go first, for the sake of meaning. For instance: “He threw the Frisbee to me and my brother, who was busy playing with the dog.” Every now and then, similarly, it’s a good thing to go through a doorway ahead of a parent with a baby in a stroller -- but that’s so you can hold the door. Unless you have some such reason, putting yourself first is, as you say, rude.
Carlos Nunez, of St. Louis, writes: “During the Clinton years I noticed the term ‘wonk’ (as in ‘policy wonk’) in newspapers and magazines. But I couldn’t find it in a dictionary. Can you shed light on this verbiage? Is its half-life already over?”
Dear Carlos: It might be time for you to get a new dictionary. All six of the current American dictionaries I have include “wonk.” The word means “someone who studies an issue or a subject excessively.” In fact, my databases tell me, “wonk” has been appearing in U.S. newspapers for fully 20 years now. Since dictionaries have traditionally relied on printed sources, it takes them a little while to catch up. But I have an out-of-date dictionary that was published in 1992, the year when Bill Clinton was first elected president, and even it includes “wonk.”
Manfred Tatzmann, of Lansing, Mich., writes: “Where did the usage of the word ‘spanking,’ as in the oft-used phrase ‘brand spanking new,’ come from? What exactly are we spanking, and why? Is this a form of word abuse? Shouldn’t someone be notified?”
Dear Manfred: Thank goodness, you’ve brought this to the attention of the proper authority. And don’t worry -- no words were harmed in the making of this phrase. “Spanking” in “brand spanking new” is actually a different word from the one in “You’re going to get a spanking if you don’t stop that right now!” The two are homographs (they’re written the same way) and also homophones (they sound the same) -- like “bow” (the front part of a ship) and “bow” (to bend at the waist). But they’ve come to us by different routes.
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