January 7th, 2004
We're pregnant? / iterate and reiterate / absolutely
by Barbara Wallraff
Terry Holmes, of Birmingham, Mich., writes, “Since when has it become acceptable for couples who are expecting a baby to say ‘We’re pregnant?’ Isn’t pregnancy a state reserved only for women? Isn’t Queen Elizabeth the only one allowed to use the royal ‘we’? I don’t know where this started, but I wish it would stop.”
Gee, I don’t know. When an expectant father says that, don’t you think it’s nicer than if he said “She’s pregnant”—as if his wife had gotten that way all by herself? “We’re pregnant” is not so different from “We’re expecting” or “We’re having a baby.”
Jim Infantino, of Brighton, Mass., writes, “A friend is upset by ‘reiterate.’ He says that each time a point is stated, it is only iterated, not reiterated. Is my friend correct?”
If your friend means that to “iterate” is to repeat, and so is to “reiterate,” he’s right, according to dictionaries. The word comes from the Latin verb “iterare,” which means “repeat; do again.” It was the French who got confused first, in the fourteenth century, and pretty soon they confused English-speakers, too, with their verb “reiterer,” which means the same thing as their verb “iterer.” Both “iterate” and “reiterate” have been used in English for nearly 500 years.
Terry Canning, of Marion, Iowa, writes, “I am concerned about the loss of the word ‘yes.’ I believe there is a plot to replace it with the word ‘absolutely’ in public utterance. Whenever anyone, especially on television, is asked a question, unless the answer is no the person responds, ‘Absolutely!’ Is there anything one can do about this obnoxious trend?”
When I got your letter, I thought you were overreacting. But ever since, “absolutely” has absolutely been jumping out of the TV and off the newspaper page at me. I won’t say it (anymore) if you won’t. Keep reading this column and keep me honest?
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